jh’s thought 健豪随想

There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure. – Colin Powell

Do not give up!!


I am putting this video here in my blog simply because i just like it very much. It is so motivational, it is so touching and it is so inspirational. Look back in my life, i admit that i am a person who give up things quite easily. There are many excuses that i have been giving to myself. I believe human being tends to forgive themselves quite easily. From now on, i will remind myself to watch this video whenever i feel like i am giving up something 😉

这则影片真的是太感人了.试想想,我们在过去的一些日子里,是不是曾经轻易地放弃过一些很好的机会?如果四肢健全的我们能那么轻易地放弃一些我们的理想或该尽的责任.那我们不就连影片里的人都不如?加油吧,朋友们!

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17/02/2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | 3 Comments

情人节快乐 !

二月十四号,一个充满爱的日子。大街上好多女生们手里拿着玫瑰花,商家们个个脸上都带着微笑。曾经听过这么一个说法,这些节日是商家们创造出来赚取顾客的金钱的,现在看来不是没有道理。哈。

今年的情人节也没什么特别,也许是上几个星学业及业务上忙了一点,是真的没花什么心思去策划一些惊喜什么的,感觉有点内疚。在这里藉这个机会向我亲爱的说声抱歉。

我的女朋友送了一只应该是我所带过最贵的一只表,我真得非常感动,谢谢你dear! 🙂

watch from dear

watch from dear

情人节,就应该和情人一起庆祝。检视过去一年里相处的过程,让对方在这一天里可以很快了。我很庆幸我又一个这么好的女朋友。我使幸福的。

在这里,我要祝所有有情人终成眷属。还没找到男女朋友的,我希望你们能快马加鞭,赶快找到你们的miss and mr. right. 祝各位情人节快乐!!!

14/02/2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | 1 Comment

Panel discussion with local CEOs

I attended this panel discussion with local CEOs which organised by BizAsia yesterday and i find that there is something interesting that i would like to share with everyone.

The speakers are as follow:

1) Aileen Sim – Co-founder and Chief Operation Officer of First Meta

3) Nicholas Chan – Executive Director of Azione Capital Pte. Ltd / Founder of Purple ACE and Fatte Telecomm

and the moderator

4) Eric Tachibana – Adjunct Asst Prof. School of Business, NUS / Singapore serial entrepreneur and venture capitalist

The topic for this event is : Entrepreneurship in the new economic outlook

Firstly, they were discussing about economic crisis. Surprisingly, all of them think that economic crisis brings a lot of opportunity. There were sure affects on their entrepreneurial venture, but they just seem confident to overcome those problem. Besides that,  Prof Hari said something that i remember very clearly. ” If you would like to start a business, there is no time other than now, Remember this, there is no such things called better time. I strongly agree with this statement. Think about this, if you are able to avoid the economic crisis, you might face problems with your capital, if you have capital you might have problem with your staff hiring, when you can avoid all these you may face problem with your product and the list go on…so i strongly agree that there is no such thing called best timing.

The other things that Prof. Hari mentioned caught my attention as well. When he was being questioned about how do we know whether our idea is workable, he said :” When people tell you that you are nuts…then you should continue to work whatever you think is correct. Of course that is provided that you have done enough homework. Again, all the entrepreneurs agreed with this. I believe not much people can make such decision whereby other people especially your family and your loved one do not agree on what you are doing. But if we look at all the noble entrepreneurs, all of them were started like this. And if you would like to start something that everyone agrees on, i believe tones of people already doing it. Thus, your chance of success gets lesser. So they define entrepreneurship as value creation, no limitation, commercialisation of venture….

They actually discussed a lot about team building. They emphasized a lot about the different between a team member and a staff. So the characteristic and personality of a person is the most important criteria for a team member. When someone asked about if you are facing technical problem and you are rushing for deadline, your team member is not able to settle it, how you are going to deal with this problem? Nicholas simply answered, hire someone. Staff can always be hired, but a good team member is not easy to find.

Personally, i think it is very tough to be an entrepreneur. But it will definitely be a fun thing if you can make something out of it. So i am now training myself to be an entrepreneur. 🙂 Wish me all the best!!

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11/02/2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment

NLP

I have been learning computer programming for the past four years (though until now i know only the basics :P). Three days ago, i was borrowing book in the library. When i was browsing programming reference book, a book called <<Manage youself manage you life>> attracted my eyes. I was wondering why was this in the programming category. I took it and briefly look through it. The reason why the book was located with all the computer programming book is because it is also programming related book. But this is not computer programming, it actually talks about how to programme your book. The mechanism is called – Neuro linguistic programming. I found that was interesing and borrowed it.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is an incredibly powerful discipline that enables people to unblock the structures of human communication and human excellence.  By doing so people can think, communicate and manage themselves, and others, more effectively. There are some parts in the book that i would like to share with everyone here.

1) One of the central strengths of NLP is its emphasis on people’s responsibility for their own reactions. “You make me angry” is seen as en essentially misleading statement. ” You do this and i get angry” is nearer to the truth, because, ultimately nobody makes me angry but me. I personally think that the statement above is very good to remember for us to nurturing good EQ.

2) Making a change, in order to retake control of some aspects of your situation, is one of the most powerful basic techniques for managing yourself and managing your life. If you take action to change the state you are in, which is something that is largely under you own control, it immediately changes the way you feel about things and reminds you that you are in charge of your life. Depending on the circumstances, you will usually have many options about what to change. Let’s get really specific. What could you actually do right now to change your state?

i think that changes in your daily life is essential to make a more productive state in our life. i find that many people hardly escape from their comfort zone. If you know something is good and you are not doing it, probably it is good for you to start making some changes.

3)From problem frame to outcome frame

Problem frame includes – What is my problem? How long have I had it? Where does the fault lie? Who is to blame What is my worst experience with this problem? Why haven’t i solved it yet?

Outcome frame includes- What do i wnat? How will i know when I’ve got it? What else will improve when i get it? What resources do i have already that can help me achieve this outcome? What is something similar that i have succeeded in doing? What is the next step?

So…focus on solutions instead of problems.

4) As if

Think as if a change you seek has already occurred, in order to get clear about just how you achieved it. Or, if you are not sure you want a change, check out how your life will be further down the line if you don’t do anything now.

So for those who would like to success in your life, always imagine that as if you are already success. 🙂

5) Be flexible

-Develop FLEXIBILITY by learning from those who already have it.Then, increase your FLEXIBILITY by freeing yourself from limiting belief. Exercise your FLEXIBILITY by putting yourself in new environments and new situations. After that, practise your FLEXIBILITY by examing your routines and habits with an open mind. To achieve social FLEXIBILITY, be curious about other people. Last but not least, be flexible by borrowing a fresh perspective.

Everything around us has been changing so rapidly, so if we are still doing some things similar all the time, it will be good to adopt some FLEXIBILITY.

6) Aim to be resourceful, not just comfortable

Don’t think of your comfort zone as an area where everything is perfect and physically comfortable all the time. If that was it, it would sometimes be a very small area indeed. A more helpful way of looking at it is to think of it as the zone within which you feel you can, generally speaking, handle whatever crops up. You won’t always know what is going to happen next, but in this area you feel competent and resourceful enough to deal with most things that occur. And it’s the resourcefullness, the ‘I can handle it feeling, that makes you feel comfortable’.

So consider what helps you to be resourceful. Do certain activities strengthen you and give you confidence? Who are the people who can support you? Where, geographically, are you at your most resourceful? Can you spend some time there? What information do you need to either quell your fears or promote a sense of well-being?

manageThere are some interesting questions listed in the books that i would like to reveal my answers here as well  🙂 Please feel free to comment on my answers!

A) Five things I would do if there were no limits, no rules and I couldn’t fail:

1. Be a billionaire

2. Own an island

3. Save the earth

4. Help as many people as i could

5. Make everyone happy

B) Five things I haven’t done enough of in my life (so far):

1. Haven’t made enough money

2. Haven’t kept fit successfully

3. Haven’t given my family good life

4. Haven’t got marry with my loved one

5. Haven’t baptized

Hope everyone can put down their answers in my comment box as well. Let’s achieve our dream together. 🙂

07/02/2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | 2 Comments

林肯:在失败与屈辱中前进

林肯是美国第16任总统曾因《宅地法》、发表《解放黑奴宣言》、赢得南北战争胜利、维护联邦统一而成为美国民众心中的英明领袖。他的一生就是在失败与屈辱中前进的。
林肯从小就在不幸中成长。母亲是私生女,父亲是无聊粗鲁而到处流浪的懒汉。林肯出生在大雪纷飞的冬天,家中一贫如洗,9岁时母亲终于积劳成疾离开了人世,只活了35岁。
及至青年时代,林肯仍在苦难中挣扎。15岁时勉强上了一家私塾,每天早晚要走四英里的森林小路才能到达上学地点。买不起纸张,便用炭棒在木板上写字,等空 白的表面上写满了字迹和图形时,用刀子刮掉一层,接着继续写。无钱买书,就借别人的书,找来各种各样的废纸抄写,用麻线缝好,做成一本自己的书。天长日 久,有别于常人的性格特质开始表现出来,他开始写诗、散文,继而在报刊上发表。五年后他转学到一所学校采取干活、学习两不误的不定期学习方式。在掌握了阅 读能力之后便开始自学,无钱买书,只有借书,从《圣经》、伊索寓言》、《哈姆雷特》到《独立宣言》、《美国宪法》,各式各样的书,各式各样的报他都看,在 下田劳作的时候,他把书本带在身上,抽空阅读。
这期间他学会了公开发言,当众演讲,结识了几位著名的律师,他们经常带林肯去15英以外的法庭去听律师们辨论,这种“痴学愚行”受到父亲的严厉责罚打骂,这使他非常痛苦。
成人之后,林肯仍然没有走出困境。他种过地,伐过木帮过厨工,干过船工当过铁匠铺子的伙计,干过杂货店的店员,还当过一阵子邮递员、测量员,总之什么活都 干,什么书都看。这时一位叫安妮的姑娘撞进了他的生活,两人一见钟情,心心相印,可未结合,安妮又突然病故,林肯遭受到了沉重的打击,他的朋友说:“二十 多年来,林肯没有一天是快乐的”。后来一位叫玛丽的小姐看上了林肯,订婚之后林肯还认为不合适,写信要解除婚约,可女方坚决不同意,就在高朋满座举行婚礼 的热闹时刻,林肯无奈地逃婚了。时隔两年林肯却又在犹豫而又惊慌中与玛丽小姐结婚,只是为了道义上的责任他曾对自己做过彻底分析,非常明白自己并不爱玛 丽,但是他又确实承诺过要娶她,在道义与幸福之间,他牺牲了后者。犹如一场噩梦,许多年的折磨、牺牲,他从此失去了家庭的幸福安宁”。
一生都在失败与屈辱中前进。
1832年竞选州议员落选,连工作都丢了;1833年再次向朋友借钱经商,再次失败,后来用了17年时间才把债务还清;1834年再次竞选州议员,当 选;1840年参加国会大选,资格被否定;三年方才当选;1848年欲连任国会议员,遭到失败;1854年1858年两次竞选参议员失败;1860年一举 当选美国总统,时上51岁。用林肯本人的放说:“虽然有过心碎,但依然火热;虽然有过痛苦,但依然镇定;虽然有过崩溃,但依然自信。因为我坚信,对屡战屡 败的最好办法,就是屡败屡战,永不放弃。”
林肯这种精神不仅属于美国,应当属于世界。

林肯的失败记录

1832年他失业了,去竞选州议员,被对手击败。
1833年他自己办企业,可不到一年便倒闭了。
1834年,他决定再一次竞选州议员。这一次,他如愿了。
1835年他订婚了。但是离结婚还差几个月的时候,他的未婚妻不幸去世了。他心力憔悴,几个月卧病不起。
1836年,他患了神经衰弱症,许多人认为他已不可能再站起来。
1838年他觉得自己的状况不错,于是决定竞选州议会议长,可是失败了。
1843年他参加美国国会议员竞选,仍未成功。
1846年他再一次参加竞选国会议员,总算当选了,任期两年。
1848年,议员任期届满的他决定争取连任,但结果他落选了。为此他赔了一大笔钱。之后,他申请担任本州的土地官员,但州政府退回了他的申请。
1854年,他竞选参议员,失败了。
1856年,他竞选美国副总统提名,未获成功。
1858年,他再一次竞选参议员,还是败下阵来。

然而,就是这个一再失败而不肯言败的人,这个历尽磨难,仍旧满怀希望的人最终赢得了他人生的最大成功——1860年他当选为第十六届美国总统,并以其辉煌的业绩和高尚、伟大的人格魅力在美国历史上名彪青史。
他就是:阿伯拉罕·林肯。

失败!对林肯来说像是家常便饭。我想现在很多人,应该像林肯学习面对失败时的勇敢。曾经在一本书上看到,失败的次数越多,成功的纪律就越大。经典名人像爱迪生,哥白尼,贝多芬,甚至到近代的比尔盖兹,卡耐基等人物,没有一个不是从逆境中求存,然后成为成功的人。要怎样才会有向他们那种面对失败的勇气呢?为什么我总觉得自己没办法很勇敢的面对失败?没办法很快的从失败中再站起来,哪怕是那么一个小小的挫折? 还有太多需要学习的地方了,加油吧!!225px-abraham_lincoln_head_on_shoulders_photo_portrait

01/02/2009 Posted by | Uncategorized | Leave a comment